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Sunday, 10 March 2013

Battle Disappointica - 101

I had a tweet come in today asking me how I deal with disappointment. I laughed sympathetically, as this is something I know all too well in my type of career and I'm pretty sure something we all face and can relate to. I hope this helps. xo

It's been one of those days when it feels like nothing is going your way and your frustration and bewilderment at how your life is moving in a direction that you had not planned for, seems to be turning into a reality with every second that passes by. You want to throw your hands up in the air because you're doing everything you can, so why, why, why, does it feel like the universe is against you? 

Breathe. Close your eyes and then take a few more deep breaths. Tell yourself, 'I'm human and yes this really sucks right now but things WILL only get better.' There is somewhere within us, the power to heal ourselves - it's breathtaking and quite miraculous.

Two paths lay before you. One path is to indulge and revel in the disappointment and let those negative feelings absorb us and dictate what tomorrow will be. Bizarrely, sometimes, we find that comforting and a much easier choice to fall into. The other path is much tougher. It's the one where you pick yourself up and start all over again. Tough, right? Because right at this moment, all you wanna do is say 'F*** it!' Why on earth would you want to do it all over again with the possibility of failing - again?! 

Step forward that miraculous part of your being, where you say to yourself: 'I love me more than anything and sometimes I'll get it right and sometimes I won't and that's okay too. I'll learn from this and I will become better for it because I believe in myself and there's no way in hell I'm giving up on myself or what I believe in. I will fight for my dreams and see this through because this is my precious life. I will focus on the things that are within my control and let go of the things that are not. The way I react and deal with these challenges is going to shape me into a better person and give me some amazing stories to tell to my grandchildren one day. I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror and be proud of what is staring back at me: a person who is perfectly not perfect and can deal with whatever life presents.'

All the twists and turns in our life's journey are blessings. Some of them make sense, and some don't but they all lead to something better. One of my mentor's told me that it's only when you hit a wall, is when the miraculous breakthrough happens. 
Just when you least expect it, you'll surprise yourself and find the strength and the courage to smile again. A life spent being fearful or afraid to try again is a life wasted, and filled with regret. Who wants that? I don't. Hell, no!

TGITPG xoxo 


  1. Karen, this couldn't have been a more perfect thought of the day. Dreading the week ahead. Tomorrow consists of an assessment of cross country by a moderator for my p.e gcse - a subject at this moment wish i had never taken. College is so close now and am looking forward to everything that comes with it. At this real inbetweeny stressful time of exam prep and feeling like there isn't enough time in the day to get things done. It's nice to remind ourselves to try and think more positively and take things with a pinch of salt. Things do only get better and those times where it feels horrible won't last for long and we all just need to push on - we'll be thankful for them later! :) Lots of love Madeleine xx

  2. Okay, wow. You did again, you've made me so proud to have you as an idol, someone who says it how it is but always knows how we all feel at times, and hell I've felt like this all the time. But reading this, reading what you've wrote, just wow. Thank you for your words & understanding! As I was reading this I just imagined that this is me.. but I tend to always focus on the crap in life and never see the good, one day I'll change, one day I hope I can look in that mirror and love what I see staring back, it's gonna take a hell of a lot of time because I'm very stubborn but I know one day, I'll do it. Love you Kare, thank you. xxx

  3. Thanks Madeleine and Emily. I'm glad the blog was helpful. Just know that you are not alone in facing life's many challenges. It's how we deal with them that counts. :) xox

  4. Hello Karen, thank you for the thought. Yes its always very hard to do the right thing cos it always hurts more. In times like this i just keep telling myself i am doing fine and fake a smile. It doesn't help really help in the short term but deep inside, though maybe very small, it leaves a space for a better hope and a better choices. Be blessed :)

  5. And by the way, i have something to ask, maybe not the right place and i am sorry for that. I am from the North East India myself and an artist (well, struggling artist for now) and a blogger. I usually blog about my art and sometimes interview people and also use my blog as a medium of promoting the north east culture. Recently, (i hope u are aware) sevendiary.com did a small article on you and somehow it has ignited mix reactions (u know what that means too well). About your origin, blood legacy and stuff like that. So, i was hoping if i could do a very small interview with you on my blog. Not like the interview you might be doing. Just i send you some few questionnaires (maybe 6/7) and you decide which to answer or which not to. And i also wanted our people to know more about you cos, it seems many people really don't know you at all over here (including me). I have readers mostly based in US, UK and the North East.

    Sorry, i have to drop by your twitter account and leave a few tweets. Hope you don't mind. Looking forward to hearing from you positively. But i will understand if you decide not to.

    And i am leaving my blog address here just in case you decide to drop by and check out some of my paintings. Smile always.

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